After the birth of my son I completely lost my sense of style… here’s how I found it again.
Before I had a baby my entire wardrobe revolved around pieces I could get dual wear out of for my job, and for socialising on the weekends. I would buy tailored dresses, structured jackets, delicate fabrics that were dry-clean only, and sky-high heels. Glamour was my go-to. But once I had a baby my life changed. It wasn’t just the complete adjustment to parenthood and all that comes with it. It was the logistics – I was spending more time at home, and going out less. And for six months I struggled between what I wanted to buy and what I needed to buy. So I bought nothing and hovered in a postpartum purgatory where I recycled the same tired breast-feeding friendly outfits each week. It seems in the middle of finding my life as a mum – I’d somehow completely lost my style direction. And I missed it. What I came to realise was that all wasn’t lost. Like my life, my style needed to readjust to fit. So here are the new rules I live by:
I used to live by the cost per wear rule. Even if something was ridiculously expensive, I could justify it by the amount of times I could wear it. This made splurging on pricey pieces okay because as long as I could wear it for both work and play it practically paid for itself. It’s a different story now. Splurging on a dress for what are few and far between nights out doesn’t make sartorial sense (and it’s not great for the bank balance either!) I just don’t get the wear out of it. So I’ve flipped how I shop: Now try to spend as little as possible on trend-based clothes for going out, while spending the most on good quality basics (like t.shirts, blouses and jeans) that I can wear every day. I’ve even started to spend more on flats because as much as I hate to admit it, it’s not easy wear stilettos while tottering after a little one – believe me, I tried!
2. Online shopping
It only took one trip to the mall to realise that shopping with a baby is a logistical nightmare. Even if you’ve timed your trip to go when they’re asleep, or when they’re fed and generally content, my son always seemed to require extra attention while in a store. As a result I zoomed around the shop not really focusing on anything – and always left empty handed. And don’t even get me started on changing rooms… trying to fit you, the clothes, and a buggy in that closet-style space just doesn’t work. Online shopping was a GODSEND – not only did it save me from lugging the pushchair in and out of the car but it was great to do when my baby was napping so I could focus all my attention on what I wanted to buy, and not him!
3. Find your Monday to Friday Uniform.
When I was working full time my uniform was fitted dresses and heels. After realising that was no longer feasible to wear with a small baby I’ve found an algorithm to suit my weekly lifestyle. Three things I always opt for is minimalist colours, floaty shirts and denim. It’s simple, comfortable and looks a whole lot more put together than banging out the athleisure for another trip to the supermarket. Wearing a fabrics like silk may have once been my preference, but when those grabby little marmite hands get me, my clothes are instantly ruined. Now I try and opt for cotton in the day and leave the silk and cashmere for those evenings out – even if they are rare!
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